I wanted to write something inspiring this week, and preferably something completely unrelated to the current situation but it seems that everywhere I turn it’s all about Coronavirus. I can’t even rub my eyes without freaking out wondering when was the last time I washed my hands.
The other day I had a “Virtual Happy Hour” with my two good friends and we really struggled to find anything else to talk about. It just seems that it’s everywhere, engulfing us with darkness and sucking all the air from our lungs— symbolically and literally.
As I’ve mentioned previously, I’m pretty anxious about it, although I’m young and heathy, it’s hard to say who would survive and who would fall victim to this thing. That sound dramatic but in my defense, my mom keeps the news on 24/7 and when she’s not watching the news, she’s praying. I get it…those are her ways of coping. At the same time, they seem to be having detrimental effects on my mental wellbeing.
Super uplifting right?
I’m constantly preaching about the benefits of cultivating your own happiness and I truly believe that the power of positive thinking can transform the negative Nancy in us all. But that’s assuming we’re dealing with our run of the mill, everyday lives. It’s hard to keep that same “glass half full” mentality when facing a world wide crisis.
You see all the posts on social media and other platforms about “counting your blessings” and “being thankful for [fill in the blank]” but the reality is that all of our lives have been so dramatically effected, that we can’t help but feel sorry for ourselves.
On the other hand, I’ve seen several posts/rants/quotes saying “It’s okay to mourn, it’s okay to feel sad, it’s okay to be unproductive,” which I find also disturbing because of the sheer amount of people who were already mourning, sad, unproductive before this happened. How are those poor souls faring in this even more isolating, deteriorating, devastating world?
To excel or to retreat?
The problem with social media and online posts/rants/quotes is that they are usually all encompassing— they try to be a “one size fits all” solution to problems that are so complicated. Of course, posting my own personal opinions on the internet makes me just as guilty, but I want to point out that everyone doesn’t need to take all the advice that’s thrown at them.
For me, getting up early, getting “ready” for work, staying on a schedule, trying to meditate, trying to be as “normal” as possible, has really helped me cope with the madness, but that might not be the case for everyone. To get to this point, I really had to take a step back and ask myself what I thought I needed to get through this. For a while I didn’t have an answer and I really wasn’t sure what would help. I realized the important thing was not the answer but the check-in.
My current routine might be working for now, but could be failing in a week. That’s why the check-in is so important, giving us a chance to reflect and readjust. During coronavirus and always, we need to be checking in with ourselves— being truthful about how we are coping and adjusting to our own needs.